The African, Matriarchal, Life-centric Culture I Was Raised-In Was An Extended Family/Village
The concept of family wasn’t two parents; it was an extended family, a village because even the neighbors functioned like parents…i.e., could discipline all of us children… strangers could, too. And, often with a look…called ‘the eye’, which meant, ‘stop’.
By the way, this is a basic characteristic of the ‘matriarchal’ family/social structure.
Any way, it was not until recently, the last 15 – 20 years of so, that I’ve begun discovering things I didn’t teach my kids that I wish I had. I could blame myself, totally but for knowing that my parents’ generation (on back) had the village, the extended family to help them rear the children…which I didn’t have. And, before my divorced, my husband wasn’t very participatory & even less so afterwards, so, I was fully responsible but just couldn’t do what a village could.
My point, one of the basic life skills topics my children needed and didn’t get was ‘financial literacy of spouse selection’, i.e., ‘Is s/he the right fit financially’?
WOW!!!! am I sorry we didn’t have this talk.
But realizing that we didn’t I’m now going to introduce the topic to my grandchildren, the younger people in my family network, the divorced adults, and any of you who find it relevant.
Haven’t read the article in full, yet, but am posting it to my family network now.
NOTE: I include tags like:
- ‘credit karma’ because that’s one source I use to stay atop of my credit score
- the ‘anonymous’ tags because if a couple attends these meeting, together, the topic of money will be de-personalized…making it much easier to discuss; and you’ll have a common language and concepts which will also facilitate discussion