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To Blindly Celebrate European Holidays, Like Valentine’s Day & It’s Gods of Love…Eros & Cupid is to Celebrate Sex/Love…Even, Greek ‘Boy Love’ or Pedophilia …& It’s Ok…Just #bwokehistorically


Personally, I Prefer Ubuntu Intimacy Day

Just #bwokehistorically…know the history of what’s being celebrated


A brief historical perusal of Valentine’s Day tells us the following:

  • All images are white…no Blacks or people of color
  • Valentine’s Day, also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is celebrated annually on February 14
  • Feast day of Saint Valentine celebrates of love and sexual attraction
  • In Greek mythology, Eros was the Greek god of sexual attraction; his Roman counterpart was Cupid(“desire”)
  • Eros, the god of love, was represented by a strong, powerful young man in ancient Greece, but by the time ancient Rome depicted love, it was a little boy with a bow and arrow
  • Eros was also considered the protector of homosexual love.
  • Cupid was known to the Greeks as Eros, the god of love
  • Today, Cupid is the mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day
  • Ancient Greeks thought it was normal to be drawn to the beauty of adolescent boys just as they were drawn to women, and homosexuality was considered part of coming of age
  • Today, Cupid mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day

Additionally, the holiday is  commercialized, i.e., sales for big white businesses reached $17.6 billion last year; this year’s sales are expected to total $18.6 billion.

And, many Black folk will break the bank buying jewelry and flowers for their beloveds WHILE…many, IF NOT MOST others will celebrate in a SAD (that’s Single Awareness Day) way…ALONE. 


“Mounting evidence shows loneliness can be lethal…”

So, Happy Ubuntu Intimacy Day to you…

Let’s do #UbuntuBlackIntimacyDay instead

Ubuntu…IS NOT SEXUALIZED…has nothing to do with sex



For Black people, at least, Why Not #UbuntuIntimacyDay… 

  • I can’t exist unless you do
  • I exist because you do
  • I am what I am because of who we all are
  • I am what I am because of who you are
  • mutual caring for all


Using the Ubuntu concept, can we not discover an African way to celebrate our love for each other…on February 14th… that embraces the concept of Ubuntu…Black community / village caring and intimacy?

Consider, Sobonfu Some’s’ tribe’s way of being intimate:


A renowned, respected teacher and mentor to thousands, Sobonfu Somi is one of the first and foremost voices of African spirituality to come to the West.

Some’ was born in #DanoBurkinaFaso, a remote West African village with a population of about two hundred people. Dano has preserved the old ways of African village life, with family structures, spiritual practices, and methods of living that have been in place for more than ten thousand years. In The Spirit of Intimacy, Some’ distills the ancient teachings and wisdom of her native village to give insight into the nature of intimate relationships.

Some’ generously applies the subtle knowledge from her West African culture to this one. Simply and beautifully, she reveals the role of spirit in every marriage, friendship, relationship, and community. She shares ancient ways to make our intimate lives more fulfilling and secure and offers powerful insights into the “illusion of romance,” divorce, and loss. Her important and fascinating lessons from the heart include the sacred meaning of pleasure, preparing a ritual space for intimacy, and the connection between sex and spirituality. Her ideas are intuitively persuasive, provocative, and healing–and supported by sound practical advice, along with specific rituals and ceremonies based on those used for thousands of years.

With this book, the spiritual insights of indigenous Africa take their place alongside those of native America, ancient Europe, and Asia as important influences on Western readers.