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.@AmandlaStenberg You’re To Be Commended

03 Saturday Mar 2018

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.@AmandlaStenberg You’re To Be Commended

…for letting your thoughts and decisions referencing yourself and your people determine your actions…seems like a perfect example of what a Wakandan would do.

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WOW!!! I started not to respond to this post but something prompted me to read the backstory some of which is this    https://yhoo.it/2FaQfZo:

Amandla Stenberg says she walked away from “Black Panther” because her skin complexion is lighter than that of the other cast members, and she wanted to give “darker-skinned” actors a space.

“One of the most challenging things for me to do was to walk away from ‘Black Panther,’” she told CBC. “I got really, really close and they were like, ‘do you want to continue fighting for this?’ And I was like, this isn’t right.”

She added, “These are all dark skin actors playing Africans and I feel like it would have just been off to see me as a bi-racial American with a Nigerian accent just pretending that I’m the same colour as everyone else in the movie.”

 “That was really challenging, to make that decision, but I have no regrets,” she continued. “I recognize 100 percent that there are spaces that I should not take up and when I do take up a space it’s because I’ve thought really, really critically about it and I’ve consulted people I really trust and it feels right.”

As an Independent Racism Scholar who’s mission includes helping us, Black folk, not act complicity with the system of racism/white supremacy (#sr/ws), it’s my opinion that Amandla’s decision is, 1st, most rare…seldom do we allow our knowledge of the #sr/ws to instruct our decisions and behaviors and act in ‘our’ interest…which is what Amandla did…  .@Almandlasternberg you’re to be commended.

The point, is to know and not act accordingly is actually, to be complicity with #sr/ws…aganst ‘our’ interest.

2nd, as .@MadisonSiriusXM says constantly, ‘there’s something we all can do’ and then he asks, ‘what are you going to do’?

My point, there is something we all can do and here, Amandla did something that’s seldom done and that’s ‘respect our people to the highest and give a dark skinned sister a chance’.

An extension but related, psychiatrist, Dr. Frances Cress Welsiing, intimated at several of her lectures, ‘when we, Black people, begin to show love to the darkest of us, we’ll know we’re beginning to love self…like the people of Wakanda do.

To Blindly Celebrate European Holidays, Like Valentine’s Day & It’s Gods of Love…Eros & Cupid is to Celebrate Sex/Love…Even, Greek ‘Boy Love’ or Pedophilia …& It’s Ok…Just #bwokehistorically… Personally, I Prefer Ubuntu Intimacy Day

14 Wednesday Feb 2018

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To Blindly Celebrate European Holidays, Like Valentine’s Day & It’s Gods of Love…Eros & Cupid is to Celebrate Sex/Love…Even, Greek ‘Boy Love’ or Pedophilia …& It’s Ok…Just #bwokehistorically

 

Personally, I Prefer Ubuntu Intimacy Day

Just #bwokehistorically…know the history of what’s being celebrated

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A brief historical perusal of Valentine’s Day tells us the following:

  • All images are white…no Blacks or people of color
  • Valentine’s Day, also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is celebrated annually on February 14
  • Feast day of Saint Valentine celebrates of love and sexual attraction
  • In Greek mythology, Eros was the Greek god of sexual attraction; his Roman counterpart was Cupid(“desire”)
  • Eros, the god of love, was represented by a strong, powerful young man in ancient Greece, but by the time ancient Rome depicted love, it was a little boy with a bow and arrow
  • Eros was also considered the protector of homosexual love.
  • Cupid was known to the Greeks as Eros, the god of love
  • Today, Cupid is the mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day
  • Ancient Greeks thought it was normal to be drawn to the beauty of adolescent boys just as they were drawn to women, and homosexuality was considered part of coming of age
  • Today, Cupid mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day

Additionally, the holiday is  commercialized, i.e., sales for big white businesses reached $17.6 billion last year; this year’s sales are expected to total $18.6 billion.

And, many Black folk will break the bank buying jewelry and flowers for their beloveds WHILE…many, IF NOT MOST others will celebrate in a SAD (that’s Single Awareness Day) way…ALONE. 

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“Mounting evidence shows loneliness can be lethal…”

So, Happy Ubuntu Intimacy Day to you…

Let’s do #UbuntuBlackIntimacyDay instead

Ubuntu…IS NOT SEXUALIZED…has nothing to do with sex

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For Black people, at least, Why Not #UbuntuIntimacyDay… 

  • I can’t exist unless you do
  • I exist because you do
  • I am what I am because of who we all are
  • I am what I am because of who you are
  • mutual caring for all

 

Using the Ubuntu concept, can we not discover an African way to celebrate our love for each other…on February 14th… that embraces the concept of Ubuntu…Black community / village caring and intimacy?

Consider, Sobonfu Some’s’ tribe’s way of being intimate:

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A renowned, respected teacher and mentor to thousands, Sobonfu Somi is one of the first and foremost voices of African spirituality to come to the West.

Some’ was born in #DanoBurkinaFaso, a remote West African village with a population of about two hundred people. Dano has preserved the old ways of African village life, with family structures, spiritual practices, and methods of living that have been in place for more than ten thousand years. In The Spirit of Intimacy, Some’ distills the ancient teachings and wisdom of her native village to give insight into the nature of intimate relationships.

Some’ generously applies the subtle knowledge from her West African culture to this one. Simply and beautifully, she reveals the role of spirit in every marriage, friendship, relationship, and community. She shares ancient ways to make our intimate lives more fulfilling and secure and offers powerful insights into the “illusion of romance,” divorce, and loss. Her important and fascinating lessons from the heart include the sacred meaning of pleasure, preparing a ritual space for intimacy, and the connection between sex and spirituality. Her ideas are intuitively persuasive, provocative, and healing–and supported by sound practical advice, along with specific rituals and ceremonies based on those used for thousands of years.

With this book, the spiritual insights of indigenous Africa take their place alongside those of native America, ancient Europe, and Asia as important influences on Western readers.

 

 

Today, There’re People (of Color) Who’ve Had No Contact With white People

12 Friday Jan 2018

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Today, There’re People (of Color) Who’ve Had No Contact With white People…When They Do What Do You Think whites Teach Them About Sex?

 

 

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This tribe ‘discovered 2016….but, there’re more than a hundred uncontacted tribes in Brazil’s rain forest, alone.

….they teach what they know….

“Greek boy love”

 

Anthropologist sexually abuse Yanomami boys.

St. Louis Archbishop Didn’t Know Sex With Children Was a Crime

For it to stop, only people from a culture that values children can teach whites new values rooted in respect like the African philosophy of Ubuntu…taught via the 12 Step program to stop patriarchal thinking written by Jackie Morgan.

 

Black Men Contaminated By Patriarchy Act Like white Men

27 Monday Nov 2017

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Black Men Socialized To Be Patriarchs, Though Powerless, Act Like white Men

And, Therefore Abuse Women and Children

Dubois warned us….                

…in his 1960 speech, Whither Now and Why…1st 2 pages:

“There is much hard work yet to be done before the Negro  becomes a voter,  before he has equal rights to education and before he can claim complete civil and social equality.  Yet this situation is insight and it brings not as many assume an end to the so-called Negro problems, but a beginning of even more difficult problems of race and culture.  Because what we must now ask ourselves is when we become equal American citizens what will be our aims and ideals and what will we have to do with selecting these aims and ideals  Are we to assume that we will simply adopt the ideals of Americans and become what they are or want to be and that we will have in this process no ideals of our own?”

“That would mean that we would cease to be Negroes as such and become white in action if not completely in color.  We would take on the culture of white Americas doing as they do and thinking as they think.”

Dubois continues, “[m]anifestly this would not be satisfactory.  …We would lose our memory of Negro history…we would cease to acknowledge any greater tie with Africa…we would not try to develop Negro music…we would and thus solve our racial problem in America by committing racial suicide…“

Consequently, Blacks who’re not taught their history and who don’t live African culture but are socialized to be white and/or educated in public schools with white curriculum  and/or live white and/or seduced by white power (politicians, entertainers, etc.)…began to think and act white as if they really have white privilege…until they’re caught…
Examples below of Black men who began to think and act white…thus, committing #racialsuicide…and are complicit in #Blackculturalgenocide.

Per Dubois: “… marry lighter people so as to have children who are not identified with the Negro  race…race suicide.”

It’s not easy to identify a Black man who is an exemplary example of a Black person who’s committed to his race, his Black identity…I can only think of one…..Malcolm.

The difference, Malcolm studied Classical African History, pre-1492 which is emphatically matriarchal or gender equal and!! began to live it.  Ideologically, he went from Detroit Red, who had no respect for others, women included to Malcolm X.  African history transformed him. 

Clarence Thomas, Marian Berry, Michael Jackson, Bill Cosby, nor Congressman Conyers were #wokeorclassicalafricanhistoyliterate.  They may have been active in the Civil Rights Movement but the Civil Rights Movement had no Pan African scholarly strategist (and, Afrocentric scholars came later).
SIX PROFILES  OF  BLACK  PEOPLE
(from white & Black Identity Development Models)
1.  Acculturated                                    – Clarence Thomas, Michael Jackson
2.  Bicultural                                         – Marian Berry, Bill Cosby, John Conyers
3.  Culturally Immersed Afro-centric   – Malcolm…was becoming
4.  Traditional Unacculturated             – Blacks born prior to 1945…went
                                                                to segregated schools with teachers 
                                                                socialized in African culture  
Solutions:
1. a requirement: a 12 Step Program for a sex addiction: 
    Recoveries Anonymous (RA)
    Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
    Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) 
    Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA)
    Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)   
    Sexual Recovery Anonymous (SRA)   
2. But, I highly recommend Patriarchal Thinking Anonymous because it
    addresses sexism, classism, and racism
 

white Male Patriarchal Culture…Historically Embraces Homosexuality, Pederasty or Pedophilia

21 Tuesday Nov 2017

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white Male Patriarchal Culture…Embraces Homosexuality, Pederasty or Pedophilia

If you can answer these questions, please do:

1.  Historically, has homosexuality existed without pedophilia and misogyny?

2.  Historically, what culture are they indigenous to, patriarchy or matriarchy?

3.  Does the culture that’s characteristically homosexual, pedophilic, and misogynistic have the right to impose these practices on a culture that isn’t?

4.  And, if it does impose their cultural practices on another culture is that not cultural racism?

 So, Europeans have the right to propagate books like this.

And, Europeans have the right to have sex with their children, mistreat their women, etc.

But they don’t have the right to force their practices on non-Europeans…who practice and live by a different set of values.  Nor do they have the right to classify non-Europeans as homophobic…for living in accordance with non-European culture.

And, societies that live in accordance with Ubuntu practice and live by a different set of values…like, I am because you are…which is African have the right to live in accordance with their cultural values. Ubuntu is a Zulu word  that embraces the African value system for humanness that was promoted by Bishop Desman Dutu and Nelson Mandella.

When whites accuse non-whites, those who embrace matriarchal culture, of being ‘homophobic’, they’re being “#culturalracist.”

African culture, matriarchy, is the 1st and oldest on the face of the earth. Africans are the oldest people on the face of the earth.  They are the parents of all other peoples…whites, too.

European culture, patriarchy, is the youngest culture on the face of the earth. And, Europeans are the youngest people on the earth.

Just consider:

African woman stops war with sex strike…white men can’t even stop war/s with guns…who’s smarter, I ask?

Leymah Gbowee led a sex strike campaign with Liberian women to end the country’s brutal civil war. They were successful: in 2003 warlords agreed to end the violence. In 2011, Gbowee won a Nobel Peace Prize for her campaign.

And, she’s not the only woman of color to do so…so, looks like the ‘young’ aggressive, violent, war prone white man needs to let women of color handle global disagreements.

But if patriarchs want to stop taking advantage of those physically ‘weaker’ among them, they need to learn a different set of values and new way of thinking and behaving.  As a Black woman, socialized in matriarchal culture and who’s lived in a patriarchal culture with a Masters in Afrocentric Counseling, I recommend a combination of the following: (1) Scientology’s Dianetics Auditing process to reveal the depths of their subconscious, (2) a rights of passage designed by an African who’s experienced it to put patriarchs in touch with their spirituality, and, to maintain the new thinking and behavior…(3) the #Ubuntu12StepprogramforPatriarchy written by Jackie Morgan.