As indicated by the New Zealand shooter, Brenton Tarrant, the violent white male Patriarchal culture is what determines how boys are raised in this country…it’s a white thing, a white violent thing. Lying is too, that’s why they put a Black face on it in this article.
According to The Anti-Defamation League
The extremist-related murders in 2018 were overwhelmingly linked to right-wing extremists. Every one of the perpetrators had ties to at least one right-wing extremist movement, although one had recently switched to supporting Islamist extremism. White supremacists were responsible for the great majority of the killings, which is typically the case. https://bit.ly/2S6yrYT
So Why Put A Black Face on Toxic Masculinity? When It’s Really a white Thing…to the extent that…
As WAMU’s program 1A does today in it’s program How To Raise Boys
Parenting isn’t easy. But raising a boy in 2019 presents a particular type of challenge.
Facilitated by social media, parents and children are constantly unpacking patriarchy, feminism and what it means to be a man.
David McGlynn writes about just part of the anxiety he experiences parenting boys:
The thought of either of my two sons harassing or assaulting another person, or being victims themselves, is enough to keep me up at night. Any parent is likely to share my worry.
Nor are sexual bullying and harassment confined to girls. Teenage boys are under tremendous pressure to “act like a guy,” which often means fitting into narrow (and often toxic) conventions of manhood. Dr. Brown said, “It’s common for boys to be called homophobic slurs in middle and high school, especially if they deviate from the very narrow stereotype of what it means to be a typical adolescent boy.” Some boys, in fact, might sexually harass girls simply to keep themselves from being harassed.
Masculinity can often be aggressive. And as Faith Salie writes for Time,angry men are all around us.
A man uses his car to assassinate an anti-Nazi protestor. A man shoots a congressman at his baseball practice. A man commits mass murder at a Vegas concert. A man massacres worshippers in their church. A police officer slaughters his own family. The headlines blur, but they invariably seem to feature men whom the media informs us felt lonely or powerless. And a significant number of American men who actually possess power — but are not murderously angry — are pridefully aggressive. The President tweets furiously,with violently bad syntax, spastic punctuation and apoplectic capitalization, venially attacking not only swaths of people but individual citizens of the country he has vowed to protect and defend.
Of course, men aren’t inherently bad. But patriarchy is widespread.
How can we combat toxic masculinity and make the world a safer, kinder place for people of all genders? And what role do parents and community members play in the development of boys who will fulfill that goal?
Offered Scholarship; Temple U At Game; But Principal Said Jamal, Can’t Play…You Homeless…Got No Fixed Address
Racism 202: Perfect example of ‘internalized racial inferiority’ which is the root of ‘Blacks hurting Black syndrome‘…principal telling student not to play because he’s homeless.
Principal Jackson told the coach he’d be fired if Jamel played. Wow!!! All the principal needed do is give Jamel an address. Can’t we think outside the box to help each other?
No…not when we suffer from ‘internalized racial inferiority’ which means we act like honorary white people and treat each other like whites treat each other. So, even though the DC State Athletic Association (DCSAA) cleared Jamel to play, the principal went out of his way to bench Jamel shortly before the home game. The principal was probably angry and felt he had to have the last word after the team held a protest in favor of Jamel and being out-voted by the DCSAA.
The principal needs to be sent to 12 Steps for Racialized Thinking where he’ll learn the difference between helping and hurting people of color, he’ll make amends, and learn a new way of thinking.
“Internalized racial inferiority’ is a mental health issue…it’s ‘racialized thinking’…a habitual way of thinking about race and can be best addressed by 12 Steps for Racialized Thinking program.
Happy ending, Jamel’s been offered a permanent home now but, just in case, if he needs to, #Jamelcanusemyaddress.
This movie, a true story, portrays why whites got married in the 1700’s; the radio program gives an overview as how it came to be what it is currently.
Black people are the oldest people in the world therefore, they have the oldest types of relationships…and not the type white people have…and, it doesn’t include high rates of divorce, jealously, abuse or illegitimate children, less divorce, no jealousy, or abuse.
Our history include:
Polygamy definition is – marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time.
Polyandry – a woman has more than one husband practiced among Tibetans in Nepal, parts of China and part of northern India, in which two or more brothers are married to the same wife, with the wife having equal “sexual access” to them.
Love Festival to meet or find a lover – The Hmong of Vietnam go to a Love Market Festival annually to find lovers or to be with lovers…if the woman gets pregnant no thing…the husband accepts it as his, no anger or jealously
No Word for Sex – in the Dagaaba culture and tradition, there is no word for sex; Malidoma and Sobonfu Some’s marriage was arranged and couples don’t sleep together the night they marry. They say the problems with American relationships is they start at the top of intimacy, with sex then have no where to go with their relationships.
Mother’s Brother Is Father not Biological Father – In European Patriarchal culture, descent is traced through the man or father…if child is not his, the child is illegitimate.
In African Matriarchal culture descent is traced through the woman or mother; mother’s brother or uncle fulfilled the father role..all children, therefore have a father…no concept of illegitimacy and the child belongs to the village….the extended family.
Just image, if African Americans began to live matriarch-ally, none of our children would be illegitimate, i.e., all Black children would have a father, his uncle. The practice would begin to put an end to ‘fatherless’ children. Yes, we’d probably have to return to several generations living together but that would solve a lot of other problems we have because we’re living patriarch-ally.
Female Husbands / Male Daughters – has nothing to do with sex.
In other words, the marriage promotes the social or economic status of the women. The women don’t engage in sex with each other they each have the right to have sex with men of their choice. The purpose of the union is the continuation of the family line. the man who impregnates the woman is chosen from the female ‘husband’s’ clan.
POINT: To know the types of marriage people engage in globally and historically would broaden they type of relationships available to us vs only knowing about one.
Your baby’s weight at birth is one of the key signs that the baby is healthy. So, when the baby has a low birth weight, which means they weigh less than 5.5 pounds at birth, they could be at risk for several health issues.
As newborns, they may have problems like difficulty breathing, heart problems, or bleeding in the brain. Later in life, they have a higher than normal risk of developing diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, or becoming obese.
Your baby’s weight and racism might not seem like topics that belong in the same sentence. But they’re more related than you might think. Let’s dive into why being a Black woman makes you more at risk to have a low birth weight baby.
Racism—Starting In The Womb
It’s not being Black and female that increases the risk of having a low-birth weight baby. It’s the connection between being Black and being discriminated against that increases the risk.
Many things can cause stress, from looking for a job to losing a loved one. And racism is right up there with the rest. Many Black women don’t even realize they are facing the stress of racism because it’s become so normal.
There are a few reasons why racism can make you stressed:
It’s rude. That might not sound very scientific, but—it’s true. When someone says or does something racist, it’s demeaning and negative. That can take a major toll on your psyche and health. Even your medical team might treat you differently—usually, without intending to—which can lead to subpar treatment during pregnancy.
Others’ racist attitudes can make it more difficult for Black women to find work, get housing, or receive good medical care. All of these factors impact the baby’s health and your health during pregnancy.
And Stress Affects My Baby’s Weight, How?
Everyone’s body produces cortisol (a.k.a. the “stress hormone”). During a normal pregnancy, your cortisol level can increase by 2 to 4 times. However, stress can make your body release more cortisol, and that’s where things get messy. Too much cortisol can reduce blood flow to the fetus, and that can restrict your baby’s growth.
Chronic stress can also weaken your immune system. This makes it harder for your body to fight infections, including infections in the uterus. This can lead to premature birth (a baby born before 37 weeks). And premature birth causes low birth weight in two-thirds of underweight newborns.
The bottom line: Racism is a powerful stressor that causes your body to release the same hormones it would in any other stressful situation. If you’re constantly facing discrimination, that stress can keep on building up and affect your baby’s birth weight.
Racism Can Also Affect You And Your Baby Like This …
Stress (like the stress caused by racism) can affect your behavior, which can, in turn, lead to low birth weight.
When people are stressed, they are more likely to turn to cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs. All of these activities can slow the baby’s growth in the womb, causing low birth weight.
It’s estimated that smoking during pregnancy accounts for 20 to 30% of babies born with a low birth weight, and up to 14% of premature births.
Secondhand smoke can increase a baby’s risk of low birth weight by as much as 20%.
There is no safe time or way to drink. Depending on your drinking habits, you can give your baby a 16% increased risk of low birth weight—as early as the second half of your first trimester.
… And Like This
You’ve heard the saying, “strong, independent Black woman.” And power to you if you are one.
But did you know that being strong and independent can actually be a major stressor if you’re Black?
White women who become strong and independent by climbing their way up the socioeconomic ladder have improved health outcomes. Black women? Not so much.
One of the reasons has been referred to as “weathering,” a term coined by Arline Geronimus, a professor at the University of Michigan School of Public Health. She explains that Black women have dealt with racism for such a long time that they feel like they’ve been weathered down.
Black women have put up with a lot of disadvantages. They’re more likely than white women to be single householders, raising an entire family. They’re also more likely to be unemployed, live in poverty, and lack access to health care.
Over time, their bodies just can’t take it anymore. They become more stressed, less healthy, and more likely to have babies born with health problems, like low birth weight.
Recap: White women become strong, independent, and healthy. Black women become strong, independent, and not quite so healthy.
That Boiling Blood
There’s something else that Black women deal with that can cause low birth weight: high blood pressure.
High blood pressure (hypertension) is when the force of blood flowing through blood vessels is consistently too high. It can increase your risk for heart attack and stroke.
But it doesn’t just affect you. High blood pressure can mean your developing baby doesn’t get enough oxygen or nutrients. This can cause him to have slow growth and be born underweight.
You can get high blood pressure for a whole slew of reasons. One is that the stress we just talked about can increase your appetite. And if you’re already having pregnancy cravings, it can be very easy to reach for the foods you know you shouldn’t eat.
Once in awhile? Not a big deal. But if you overdo the pizza and ice cream, you run the risk of developing high blood pressure, which is another risk factor for low birth weight.
Black women may have high blood pressure more than white women. However, it’s also something that all sisters—Black, white, Asian, Hispanic—need to worry about when pregnant.
Stress, lack of exercise, poor sleep, and unhealthy eating can all lead to high blood pressure. And any woman, no matter the color of her skin, may be more likely to have all of these risk factors while pregnant.
There’s Something You Can Do About It
Remember: You may not be able to single-handedly control racism in the U.S. But you can control how you cope with the stress:
Refuse to turn to negative coping mechanisms—no smoking, no drinking, no drugs.
Surround yourself with supportive girlfriends and drama-free loved ones, at least until the baby is born.
Remind yourself that you’re loved, worth taking care of, and can have a great future.
Eat a healthy diet. Yes, you’re pregnant, but you still shouldn’t overeat.
Work out. Thirty minutes of mild to moderate exercise daily (e.g., brisk walking, swimming) should do the trick.
Meditate or join a prenatal yoga class.
Address the cause of stress. If your boss is a jerk, if you’re partner is pissing you off, if your landlord is a hot mess, it may be time to have a come-to-Jesus meeting with anyone who is causing you stress, whether it’s related to racism or not.
Get enough sleep. Adults need about 7 to 9 hours per night, and pregnant women usually need even more than that. Figure out how you can add some extra sleep time to your day.
If you are pregnant, hoping to one day become pregnant, or know someone who is pregnant, send this information to them. Have a conversation with the medical team during prenatal care about what you can do make sure your baby is born at a healthy weight.
One of the best ways to relieve stress is talking, sharing, conversation …in a safe space, so, 2/3 persons, start a Racism 12 Step Talk Group…to eventually include an educational piece that explores and examines racism/white supremacy. Read what the victims of oppression who’ve studied it say, like:
& listen to the Dr. Frances Cress Welsing on YouTube.
Just like you need to know what to do about hypertension when you have it, you need to know what to do about internalized racial inferiority when you suffer from it. And, the two doctors above is a good place to start the education process.
I’ll provide the steps…just ask…& Why 12 Steps For Racialized Thinking forthcoming by Jackie Morgan
Trump administration threatens those nations that prefer breastfeeding…
The Trump administration reportedly bullied other governments in an attempt to prevent the passage of an international resolution promoting breastfeeding. Photograph: Alamy Stock Photo
Advocates for improved nutrition for babies have expressed outrage over reports that the Trump administration bullied other governments in an attempt to prevent the passage of an international resolution promoting breastfeeding.
Under the terms of the original WHO text, countries would have encouraged their citizens to breastfeed on grounds that research overwhelmingly shows its health benefits, while warning parents to be alert to inaccurate marketing by formula milk firms.
The New York Times first reported how the Trump administration reacted forcefully to the resolution, which otherwise had the consensus support of all other assembly members. It pushed to remove a phrase from the draft text that would exhort governments to “protect, promote and support breast-feeding”. To Know
This is not a new issue:
2003 Baby milk marketing ‘breaks rules (West Africa)
1985 Breastfeeding versus infant formula: the Kenyan case
1981 The Controversy Over Infant Formula (Jamaica, Ghana, Nigeria, Peru, Panama, Thailand)
1960’s Nestle’ in the Developing World: a Formula for Trouble?
To know colonizer descendants don’t place a high value on their own children is to know they can’t place a high value on ‘our’ children.
…for letting your thoughts and decisions referencing yourself and your people determine your actions…seems like a perfect example of what a Wakandan would do.
WOW!!! I started not to respond to this post but something prompted me to read the backstory some of which is this https://yhoo.it/2FaQfZo:
Amandla Stenberg says she walked away from “Black Panther” because her skin complexion is lighter than that of the other cast members, and she wanted to give “darker-skinned” actors a space.
“One of the most challenging things for me to do was to walk away from ‘Black Panther,’” she told CBC. “I got really, really close and they were like, ‘do you want to continue fighting for this?’ And I was like, this isn’t right.”
She added, “These are all dark skin actors playing Africans and I feel like it would have just been off to see me as a bi-racial American with a Nigerian accent just pretending that I’m the same colour as everyone else in the movie.”
“That was really challenging, to make that decision, but I have no regrets,” she continued. “I recognize 100 percent that there are spaces that I should not take up and when I do take up a space it’s because I’ve thought really, really critically about it and I’ve consulted people I really trust and it feels right.”
As an Independent Racism Scholar who’s mission includes helping us, Black folk, not act complicity with the system of racism/white supremacy (#sr/ws), it’s my opinion that Amandla’s decision is, 1st, most rare…seldom do we allow our knowledge of the #sr/ws to instruct our decisions and behaviors and act in ‘our’ interest…which is what Amandla did… .@Almandlasternberg you’re to be commended.
The point, is to know and not act accordingly is actually, to be complicity with #sr/ws…aganst ‘our’ interest.
2nd, as .@MadisonSiriusXM says constantly, ‘there’s something we all can do’ and then he asks, ‘what are you going to do’?
My point, there is something we all can do and here, Amandla did something that’s seldom done and that’s ‘respect our people to the highest and give a dark skinned sister a chance’.
An extension but related, psychiatrist, Dr. Frances Cress Welsiing, intimated at several of her lectures, ‘when we, Black people, begin to show love to the darkest of us, we’ll know we’re beginning to love self…like the people of Wakanda do.
To Blindly Celebrate European Holidays, Like Valentine’s Day & It’s Gods of Love…Eros & Cupid is to Celebrate Sex/Love…Even, Greek ‘Boy Love’ or Pedophilia …& It’s Ok…Just #bwokehistorically
Personally, I Prefer Ubuntu Intimacy Day
Just #bwokehistorically…know the history of what’s being celebrated
A brief historical perusal of Valentine’s Day tells us the following:
All images are white…no Blacks or people of color
Valentine’s Day, also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is celebrated annually on February 14
Feast day of Saint Valentine celebrates of love and sexual attraction
In Greek mythology, Eros was the Greek god of sexual attraction; his Roman counterpart was Cupid(“desire”)
Eros, the god of love, was represented by a strong, powerful young man in ancient Greece, but by the time ancient Rome depicted love, it was a little boy with a bow and arrow
Eros was also considered the protector of homosexual love.
Cupid was known to the Greeks as Eros, the god of love
Today, Cupid is the mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day
Ancient Greeks thought it was normal to be drawn to the beauty of adolescent boys just as they were drawn to women, and homosexuality was considered part of coming of age
Today, Cupid mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day
Additionally, the holiday is commercialized, i.e., sales for big white businesses reached $17.6 billion last year; this year’s sales are expected to total $18.6 billion.
And, many Black folk will break the bank buying jewelry and flowers for their beloveds WHILE…many, IF NOT MOST others will celebrate in a SAD (that’s Single Awareness Day) way…ALONE.
“Mounting evidence shows loneliness can be lethal…”
So, Happy Ubuntu Intimacy Day to you…
Let’s do #UbuntuBlackIntimacyDay instead
Ubuntu…IS NOT SEXUALIZED…has nothing to do with sex
For Black people, at least, Why Not #UbuntuIntimacyDay…
I can’t exist unless you do
I exist because you do
I am what I am because of who we all are
I am what I am because of who you are
mutual caring for all
Using the Ubuntu concept, can we not discover an African way to celebrate our love for each other…on February 14th… that embraces the concept of Ubuntu…Black community / village caring and intimacy?
Consider, Sobonfu Some’s’ tribe’s way of being intimate:
A renowned, respected teacher and mentor to thousands, Sobonfu Somi is one of the first and foremost voices of African spirituality to come to the West.
Some’ was born in #DanoBurkinaFaso, a remote West African village with a population of about two hundred people. Dano has preserved the old ways of African village life, with family structures, spiritual practices, and methods of living that have been in place for more than ten thousand years. In The Spirit of Intimacy, Some’ distills the ancient teachings and wisdom of her native village to give insight into the nature of intimate relationships.
Some’ generously applies the subtle knowledge from her West African culture to this one. Simply and beautifully, she reveals the role of spirit in every marriage, friendship, relationship, and community. She shares ancient ways to make our intimate lives more fulfilling and secure and offers powerful insights into the “illusion of romance,” divorce, and loss. Her important and fascinating lessons from the heart include the sacred meaning of pleasure, preparing a ritual space for intimacy, and the connection between sex and spirituality. Her ideas are intuitively persuasive, provocative, and healing–and supported by sound practical advice, along with specific rituals and ceremonies based on those used for thousands of years.
With this book, the spiritual insights of indigenous Africa take their place alongside those of native America, ancient Europe, and Asia as important influences on Western readers.
St. Louis Archbishop Didn’t Know Sex With Children Was a Crime
For it to stop, only people from a culture that values children can teach whites new values rooted in respect like the African philosophy of Ubuntu…taught via the 12 Step program to stop patriarchal thinking written by Jackie Morgan.
Black Men Socialized To Be Patriarchs, Though Powerless, Act Like white Men
And, Therefore Abuse Women and Children
Dubois warned us….
…in his 1960 speech, Whither Now and Why…1st 2 pages:
“There is much hard work yet to be done before the Negro becomes a voter, before he has equal rights to education and before he can claim complete civil and social equality. Yet this situation is insight and it brings not as many assume an end to the so-called Negro problems, but a beginning of even more difficult problems of race and culture. Because what we must now ask ourselves is when we become equal American citizens what will be our aims and ideals and what will we have to do with selecting these aims and ideals Are we to assume that we will simply adopt the ideals of Americans and become what they are or want to be and that we will have in this process no ideals of our own?”
“That would mean that we would cease to be Negroes as such and become white in action if not completely in color. We would take on the culture of white Americas doing as they do and thinking as they think.”
Dubois continues, “[m]anifestly this would not be satisfactory. …We would lose our memory of Negro history…we would cease to acknowledge any greater tie with Africa…we would not try to develop Negro music…we would and thus solve our racial problem in America by committing racial suicide…“
Consequently, Blacks who’re not taught their history and who don’t live African culture but are socialized to be white and/or educated in public schools with white curriculum and/or live white and/or seduced by white power (politicians, entertainers, etc.)…began to think and act white as if they really have white privilege…until they’re caught…
Examples below of Black men who began to think and act white…thus, committing #racialsuicide…and are complicit in #Blackculturalgenocide.
Race suicide includes marrying ‘light’ and having children who don’t identify as Black.
Per Dubois: “…marry lighter people so as to have children who are not identified with the Negro race…race suicide.”
It’s not easy to identify a Black man who is an exemplary example of a Black person who’s committed to his race, his Black identity…I can only think of one…..Malcolm.
The difference, Malcolm studied Classical African History, pre-1492 which is emphatically matriarchal or gender equal and!! began to live it. Ideologically, he went from Detroit Red, who had no respect for others, women included to Malcolm X. African history transformed him.
Clarence Thomas, Marian Berry, Michael Jackson, Bill Cosby, nor Congressman Conyers were #wokeorclassicalafricanhistoyliterate. They may have been active in the Civil Rights Movement but the Civil Rights Movement had no Pan African scholarly strategist (and, Afrocentric scholars came later).
SIX PROFILES OF BLACK PEOPLE
(from white & Black Identity Development Models)
1. Acculturated – Clarence Thomas, Michael Jackson
2. Bicultural – Marian Berry, Bill Cosby, John Conyers
white Male Patriarchal Culture…Embraces Homosexuality, Pederasty or Pedophilia
If you can answer these questions, please do:
1. Historically, has homosexuality existed without pedophilia and misogyny?
2. Historically, what culture are they indigenous to, patriarchy or matriarchy?
3. Does the culture that’s characteristically homosexual, pedophilic, and misogynistic have the right to impose these practices on a culture that isn’t?
4. And, if it does impose their cultural practices on another culture is that not cultural racism?
So, Europeans have the right to propagate books like this.
And, Europeans have the right to have sex with their children, mistreat their women, etc.
But they don’t have the right to force their practices on non-Europeans…who practice and live by a different set of values. Nor do they have the right to classify non-Europeans as homophobic…for living in accordance with non-European culture.
And, societies that live in accordance with Ubuntu practice and live by a different set of values…like, I am because you are…which is African have the right to live in accordance with their cultural values. Ubuntu is a Zulu word that embraces the African value system for humanness that was promoted by Bishop Desman Dutu and Nelson Mandella.
When whites accuse non-whites, those who embrace matriarchal culture, of being ‘homophobic’, they’re being “#culturalracist.”
African culture, matriarchy, is the 1st and oldest on the face of the earth. Africans are the oldest people on the face of the earth. They are the parents of all other peoples…whites, too.
European culture, patriarchy, is the youngest culture on the face of the earth. And, Europeans are the youngest people on the earth.
African woman stops war with sex strike…white men can’t even stop war/s with guns…who’s smarter, I ask?
Leymah Gbowee led a sex strike campaign with Liberian women to end the country’s brutal civil war. They were successful: in 2003 warlords agreed to end the violence. In 2011, Gbowee won a Nobel Peace Prize for her campaign.
And, she’s not the only woman of color to do so…so, looks like the ‘young’ aggressive, violent, war prone white man needs to let women of color handle global disagreements.
But if patriarchs want to stop taking advantage of those physically ‘weaker’ among them, they need to learn a different set of values and new way of thinking and behaving. As a Black woman, socialized in matriarchal culture and who’s lived in a patriarchal culture with a Masters in Afrocentric Counseling, I recommend a combination of the following: (1) Scientology’s Dianetics Auditing process to reveal the depths of their subconscious, (2) a rights of passage designed by an African who’s experienced it to put patriarchs in touch with their spirituality, and, to maintain the new thinking and behavior…(3) the #Ubuntu12StepprogramforPatriarchy written by Jackie Morgan.