~ The aim of #RCT is to provide people a process for changing how they've been taught to think and behave patriarchy which fosters inequality, i.e., classism, sexism, and racism to thinking matriarchy which fosters equity. The 12 step process, if followed, has been proven to begin to change how one thinks and behaves in 90 days. To promote permanent change, THIS 12 step program includes New Way of Thinking (#NWTC) classes to correct the lies patriarchy has spread around the world. The 12-18 month classes include 1) Understanding the two primary global cultures, matriarchy and patriarchy (#UMPC), 2) Understanding the system of racism/white supremacy (#USRwS), and 3) Pre-Columbus-colonial African History (#PCAH).
As indicated by the New Zealand shooter, Brenton Tarrant, the violent white male Patriarchal culture is what determines how boys are raised in this country…it’s a white thing, a white violent thing. Lying is too, that’s why they put a Black face on it in this article.
According to The Anti-Defamation League
The extremist-related murders in 2018 were overwhelmingly linked to right-wing extremists. Every one of the perpetrators had ties to at least one right-wing extremist movement, although one had recently switched to supporting Islamist extremism. White supremacists were responsible for the great majority of the killings, which is typically the case. https://bit.ly/2S6yrYT
So Why Put A Black Face on Toxic Masculinity? When It’s Really a white Thing…to the extent that…
As WAMU’s program 1A does today in it’s program How To Raise Boys
Parenting isn’t easy. But raising a boy in 2019 presents a particular type of challenge.
Facilitated by social media, parents and children are constantly unpacking patriarchy, feminism and what it means to be a man.
David McGlynn writes about just part of the anxiety he experiences parenting boys:
The thought of either of my two sons harassing or assaulting another person, or being victims themselves, is enough to keep me up at night. Any parent is likely to share my worry.
Nor are sexual bullying and harassment confined to girls. Teenage boys are under tremendous pressure to “act like a guy,” which often means fitting into narrow (and often toxic) conventions of manhood. Dr. Brown said, “It’s common for boys to be called homophobic slurs in middle and high school, especially if they deviate from the very narrow stereotype of what it means to be a typical adolescent boy.” Some boys, in fact, might sexually harass girls simply to keep themselves from being harassed.
Masculinity can often be aggressive. And as Faith Salie writes for Time,angry men are all around us.
A man uses his car to assassinate an anti-Nazi protestor. A man shoots a congressman at his baseball practice. A man commits mass murder at a Vegas concert. A man massacres worshippers in their church. A police officer slaughters his own family. The headlines blur, but they invariably seem to feature men whom the media informs us felt lonely or powerless. And a significant number of American men who actually possess power — but are not murderously angry — are pridefully aggressive. The President tweets furiously,with violently bad syntax, spastic punctuation and apoplectic capitalization, venially attacking not only swaths of people but individual citizens of the country he has vowed to protect and defend.
Of course, men aren’t inherently bad. But patriarchy is widespread.
How can we combat toxic masculinity and make the world a safer, kinder place for people of all genders? And what role do parents and community members play in the development of boys who will fulfill that goal?
Living, white Is Dangerous…Deadly, In Fact…Even for white People
Patriarchal Culture is Unhealthy
White people see the symptoms but are too patriarchal to see the problem, patriarchy. That’s why they don’t qualify to analyze any of America’s problem…only Black folk quality.
See the bottom of this collage, they say, “…Black and Hispanics, [despite being victims of the system of racism/white supremacy,] tend to have stronger family support, community support and church support to carry them through…rough times.”
This support system is cultural; it’s a benefit of Matriarchal culture…soooo, white folk need to start living matriarchally, is what those white women are saying in books like
Danger: Don’t Raise Your Black Boy by white Values…because…
American Psychological Association links ‘masculinity ideology’ to homophobia, misogyny…
Lt. Governor Justin Fairfax must not have been taught African history, as Molefi Asante would prescribe; must not have been raised via the principles of MAAT and Ubuntu; and must not have lived Black or Matriarchal culture which is gender-equal, according to Cheikh Anta Diop. Why, because as, WEB Dubois, is you only know white culture, you will think and act white.
So when we send our boys to public schools…which can only teach white patriarchal values, they learn to be ‘abusers’…to act like white men…just like Trump and Brett Kavanagh…examples of white peoples’ brightest and greatest… When our Black men are raised ‘white’ they act white…not realizing that when they get caught, unlike Gov. Ralph Northam, they, like Fairfax will most probably be impeached.
Just compare behavior and value system of Detroit Red, Eurocentric patriarchal values vs Malcolm X, Afrocentric matriarchal values.
Dr. Frances Welsing thinks it imperitive that Blacks understand the system of racism/white supremacy so as not to be confused about everything. And, understanding the difference between white patriarchal culture and Black African matriarchy culture, is paramount…because culture you’re raised in gives you your values.
Lesson 1 Culture: white vs Black
Part A Patriarchy
Patriarchy is a social system in which males hold primary power and predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property. Some patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage.
For the first time in its 127-year history, the American Psychological Association admits that masculine ideology or patriarchy is bad…for men and women. It’s issuing guidelines because practitioners don’t know how to address or treat the condition — and the 36-page document features a warning.
“Traditional masculinity ideology has been shown to limit males’ psychological development, constrain their behavior, result in gender role strain and gender role conflict and negatively influence mental health and physical health,” the report warns.”
“The new “Guidelines for the Psychological Practice with Boys and Men” defines “masculinity ideology” as “a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segments of the population, including: anti-femininity, achievement, eschewal of the appearance of weakness, and adventure, risk, and violence.” The report also links this ideology to homophobia, bullying and sexual harassment.”
WARNING: This is a white man’s condition that Black men get when raised ‘white’ or via patriarchal culture vs Black African matriarchal culture…primarily via school and the white man’s media (Tylor Perry vs Spike Lee).
TO BE SAVED: Black people need to start living their Matriarchal culture which teaches the values of Ubuntu and the principles of MAAT or just basic respect… for everybody!!
Part B Matriarchy
Societies of Peace: Matriarchies Past, Present, and Future
African Matriarchal culture is the 1st culture, the oldest culture…under which the world has existed 200,000 years, and, which still exist in parts of Africa. Violent Patriarchy wouldn’t have allowed the world to exist 200,000 years. Just within the white man’s 8,000 years of existence, there’s been constant conflict, the creation of the atom bomb, global warming, the oceans and even, space is full of junk, etc.
See below, even whites consider Matriarchy as societies of peace:
White women even want to make it a field of study:
Matriarachy is a culture, not dominated by women, but descent is through women’s lenage…see below, Diop’s ,Two Cradle Theory, a brief description of both cultures.
If The Grass Roots Aren’t Prepared To Move Into Positions of Power, the Middle Class…Mulattoes Will
And… Nothing Will Change
My opinion, since the ‘grass roots’ have not prepared (studied) people to be politically literate to represent them, a Kamala Harris is better than any white person.
But historically, mulattoes, if they haven’t been taught African history or taught a sence of social justice, they tend to think, act, and govern as whites do.
But, let’s be clear…Kamala Harris didn’t live an ‘inner city’ life…and though, non-white, lived a middle class existence…her mother is Indian, see her mother’s sister below and her father’s mother is Tamil Indian and his father is Jamaica.
But to really understand the role of the middle class who’re often mulattoes…because they’re often granted more privilege (more education, better jobs, higher positions) than ‘darker’ non-whites and, because they’re asked to support the system of racism/white supremacy for the privilege…you need to read Fanon, Chancelor Williams, and/or just google mulattoe, buffer group…
This movie, a true story, portrays why whites got married in the 1700’s; the radio program gives an overview as how it came to be what it is currently.
Black people are the oldest people in the world therefore, they have the oldest types of relationships…and not the type white people have…and, it doesn’t include high rates of divorce, jealously, abuse or illegitimate children, less divorce, no jealousy, or abuse.
Our history include:
Polygamy definition is – marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time.
Polyandry – a woman has more than one husband practiced among Tibetans in Nepal, parts of China and part of northern India, in which two or more brothers are married to the same wife, with the wife having equal “sexual access” to them.
Love Festival to meet or find a lover – The Hmong of Vietnam go to a Love Market Festival annually to find lovers or to be with lovers…if the woman gets pregnant no thing…the husband accepts it as his, no anger or jealously
No Word for Sex – in the Dagaaba culture and tradition, there is no word for sex; Malidoma and Sobonfu Some’s marriage was arranged and couples don’t sleep together the night they marry. They say the problems with American relationships is they start at the top of intimacy, with sex then have no where to go with their relationships.
Mother’s Brother Is Father not Biological Father – In European Patriarchal culture, descent is traced through the man or father…if child is not his, the child is illegitimate.
In African Matriarchal culture descent is traced through the woman or mother; mother’s brother or uncle fulfilled the father role..all children, therefore have a father…no concept of illegitimacy and the child belongs to the village….the extended family.
Just image, if African Americans began to live matriarch-ally, none of our children would be illegitimate, i.e., all Black children would have a father, his uncle. The practice would begin to put an end to ‘fatherless’ children. Yes, we’d probably have to return to several generations living together but that would solve a lot of other problems we have because we’re living patriarch-ally.
Female Husbands / Male Daughters – has nothing to do with sex.
In other words, the marriage promotes the social or economic status of the women. The women don’t engage in sex with each other they each have the right to have sex with men of their choice. The purpose of the union is the continuation of the family line. the man who impregnates the woman is chosen from the female ‘husband’s’ clan.
POINT: To know the types of marriage people engage in globally and historically would broaden they type of relationships available to us vs only knowing about one.
To Blindly Celebrate European Holidays, Like Valentine’s Day & It’s Gods of Love…Eros & Cupid is to Celebrate Sex/Love…Even, Greek ‘Boy Love’ or Pedophilia …& It’s Ok…Just #bwokehistorically
Personally, I Prefer Ubuntu Intimacy Day
Just #bwokehistorically…know the history of what’s being celebrated
A brief historical perusal of Valentine’s Day tells us the following:
All images are white…no Blacks or people of color
Valentine’s Day, also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is celebrated annually on February 14
Feast day of Saint Valentine celebrates of love and sexual attraction
In Greek mythology, Eros was the Greek god of sexual attraction; his Roman counterpart was Cupid(“desire”)
Eros, the god of love, was represented by a strong, powerful young man in ancient Greece, but by the time ancient Rome depicted love, it was a little boy with a bow and arrow
Eros was also considered the protector of homosexual love.
Cupid was known to the Greeks as Eros, the god of love
Today, Cupid is the mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day
Ancient Greeks thought it was normal to be drawn to the beauty of adolescent boys just as they were drawn to women, and homosexuality was considered part of coming of age
Today, Cupid mascot of Saint Valentine’s Day
Additionally, the holiday is commercialized, i.e., sales for big white businesses reached $17.6 billion last year; this year’s sales are expected to total $18.6 billion.
And, many Black folk will break the bank buying jewelry and flowers for their beloveds WHILE…many, IF NOT MOST others will celebrate in a SAD (that’s Single Awareness Day) way…ALONE.
“Mounting evidence shows loneliness can be lethal…”
So, Happy Ubuntu Intimacy Day to you…
Let’s do #UbuntuBlackIntimacyDay instead
Ubuntu…IS NOT SEXUALIZED…has nothing to do with sex
For Black people, at least, Why Not #UbuntuIntimacyDay…
I can’t exist unless you do
I exist because you do
I am what I am because of who we all are
I am what I am because of who you are
mutual caring for all
Using the Ubuntu concept, can we not discover an African way to celebrate our love for each other…on February 14th… that embraces the concept of Ubuntu…Black community / village caring and intimacy?
Consider, Sobonfu Some’s’ tribe’s way of being intimate:
A renowned, respected teacher and mentor to thousands, Sobonfu Somi is one of the first and foremost voices of African spirituality to come to the West.
Some’ was born in #DanoBurkinaFaso, a remote West African village with a population of about two hundred people. Dano has preserved the old ways of African village life, with family structures, spiritual practices, and methods of living that have been in place for more than ten thousand years. In The Spirit of Intimacy, Some’ distills the ancient teachings and wisdom of her native village to give insight into the nature of intimate relationships.
Some’ generously applies the subtle knowledge from her West African culture to this one. Simply and beautifully, she reveals the role of spirit in every marriage, friendship, relationship, and community. She shares ancient ways to make our intimate lives more fulfilling and secure and offers powerful insights into the “illusion of romance,” divorce, and loss. Her important and fascinating lessons from the heart include the sacred meaning of pleasure, preparing a ritual space for intimacy, and the connection between sex and spirituality. Her ideas are intuitively persuasive, provocative, and healing–and supported by sound practical advice, along with specific rituals and ceremonies based on those used for thousands of years.
With this book, the spiritual insights of indigenous Africa take their place alongside those of native America, ancient Europe, and Asia as important influences on Western readers.
When A Culture Produces This Much Sexual Assault, It’s No Accident…
It’s Patriarchy & Patriarchs Can’t Police Themselves…So, It’s Not Going To Change Without…
Patriarchy is ‘the’ culture that gave birth to the ‘isms’. 1st sexism, then classism, than racism, etc. It is hierarchical; (rich) white men at the top and they dominate and control everybody else…(white) women, poorer white men, and the ‘rest of us’.
Historically, European culture has been characterized by boy love or pederasty…google: Greek boy love which relegates women to 2nd class status…virtually chattel. Actually, pederasty is the precursor to pedophilia. Only one of Romes emperors, Claudius, was heterosexual and he was viewed as weird; again, this indicates what white men think of white women. As as is evidenced by so many Catholic priest who abuse boys, in particular, are protected by both the Vatican inRome at the top and nuns at the bottom, CURRENTLY protect priest who sexual abuse women and children. Consider stories like ‘Children of Catholic priests live with secrets and sorrow (By Michael Rezendes | Photos by Suzanne Kreiter | Videos by Emily Zendt, Globe StaffAugust 16, 2017).
So, all this sex abuse is no accident…it’s normal…it’s what they, white men, do. They haven’t changed since they emerged from the European Ice Age. And, since the police can’t police themselves, patriarchs can’t police themselves, either. As for the ‘rest of us’, we just #notwoke to the truth. #2Breallywoke, is to be historically literate. #not2Bwoke2truth is to #BwokeisBhistoricallyliterate.
The solution, a matriarchal’ prescription or program. Matriarchy is the culture of peace says Heide Göttner-Abendroth the German feminist advocating Matriarchy Studies. It’s the culture that respects women and cherishes children. We need to #becomewoke to matriarchy and start living by it’s value system of respect called Ubuntu. Then, any and everybody socialized in this patriarchal European culture needs to go to 12 Steps for Patriarchy (to publish soon)…because the 12 step program has been proven to be the largest most successful self help program in the world…for behavioral change.
Hint: Most Americans treated married women according to the concept of coverture, a concept inherited from English common law. Under the doctrine of coverture, a woman was legally considered the chattel of her husband, his possession. Any property she might hold before her marriage became her husband’s on her wedding day, and she had no legal right to appear in court, to sign contracts or to do business. http://bit.ly/2ySbFdA
Which culture is characteristically misogynist? matriarchy or patriarchy and why?
Researchers studied the DNA of 47 pairs of adult male identical twins
Distinct patterns of modifications to DNA were linked to homosexuality
Known as epigenetics, these changes are thought to occur in the womb
Genetic code clue is 70% accurate, claim scientists.
Scientists claim they can predict whether someone is gay or straight with up to 70 per cent accuracy by looking at their DNA.
It has long been believed that sexuality has a biological basis – with certain genes linked to being gay.
But the claim sexual behaviour can be predicted by such a high degree was described as ‘bold’ by British scientists.
Researchers found distinct patterns of molecules which attach to DNA to switch genes on and off were associated with homosexuality. They claim to be able to predict whether someone is gay (illustrated) or straight with 70 per cent accuracy
The findings do not show whether a test would show whether a child would grow up to be gay or not – as the research was carried out on adults.
Dr Tuck Ngun, from the University of California at Los Angeles said: ‘To our knowledge, this is the first example of a predictive model for sexual orientation based on molecular markers.’
Identical twins usually – but not always – have the same sexuality. This finding has led scientists to believe there is a genetic component to being gay.
To pinpoint the genetic areas which are linked to some people being gay, Dr Ngun and his team studied the genes of 47 pairs of adult male identical twins.
The study involved 37 pairs of twins in which one brother was homosexual and the other heterosexual, and 10 pairs in which both were homosexual.
Using a computer program called Fuzzy Forest they found that nine small regions of the genetic code played the key role on deciding whether someone is heterosexual or homosexual.
The research looked at a process called ‘methylation’ of the DNA – which has been compared to a switch on the DNA – making it have a stronger or weaker effect.
This process can be triggered by hormonal effects on the growing foetus in the womb.
While identical twins have exactly the same genetic sequence, environmental factors lead to differences in how their DNA is methylated.
Thus, by studying twins, the researchers could control for genetic differences and tease out the effect of methylation. This alteration of the gene is known as an ‘epigenetic’ effect.
The researchers, who are due to present their findings at the American Society of Human Genetics 2015 Annual Meeting in Baltimore, say they found distinct patterns of methylation on the DNA that seem to be associated with homosexuality.
The researchers examined a type of DNA modification known as methylation, where molecules attach to genes due to environmental factors while in the womb and shortly after birth
Dr Ngun said: ‘Sexual attraction is such a fundamental part of life, but it’s not something we know a lot about at the genetic and molecular level.
‘I hope that this research helps us understand ourselves better and why we are the way we are.’
The findings, however, do not mean scientists could predict the sexuality of a child before it is born – as the tests were carried out on adults.
By pinpointing distinct genetic patterns that seem to play a role determining whether someone is gay or straight, it could conceivably be a step towards creating a test for homosexuality.
Any such test would be highly controversial – not to say unethical – as it raises the possibility unscrupulous scientists could try to decide the future sexuality of ‘designer babies’.
However, epigenetic changes tend to occur in the womb or shortly after birth due to the influence of the environment.
They can also be passed down according to the lifestyle of a person’s parents and even their grandparents.
But in a further hugely controversial possibility, the findings could lead to scientists trying to alter an individual’s sexuality in adulthood by changing the methylation of the genes.
Commenting on the research, Professor Tim Spector, from King’s College London, a leading expert on twin studies and genetics, said: ‘It has always been a mystery why identical twins who share all their genes can vary in homosexuality.
‘Epigenetic differences are one obvious reason and this study provides evidence for this. However the small study needs replicating before any talk of prediction is realistic.’
Scientists say further research will be needed to validate whether the patterns seen on the DNA of gay men (pictured) are reflected in larger populations. They say claims about predicting homosexuality are ‘bold’
Darren Griffin, professor of genetics at the University of Kent, said: ‘To claim a 70 per cent predictive value of something as complex as homosexuality is bold indeed. I wait with bated breath for a full peer-reviewed article.
‘While there is strong evidence in general for a biological basis for homosexuality my personal impression has always been one of a multiple contributory factors, including life experiences.’
Gil McVean, professor of statistical genetics at Oxford University, said: ‘Without validation of the result in an independent data set it is not really possible to know whether there is any substance in this claim.’
Dr Christopher Gregg, Assistant Professor of Neurobiology & Anatomy and Human Genetics, University of Utah said:
‘Overall, the importance of these findings will hinge on how reproducible they are in future studies that include larger groups of heterosexual and homosexual individuals.’
Gay and human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell said: ‘This research claims to be able to predict sexual orientation with ‘up to’ 70 per cent accuracy. This doesn’t sound entirely convincing or reliable.
‘Some people fear the research might be abused by homophobic parents or regimes to test and abort foetuses that have genetic markers for homosexuality.
‘Even if the tests achieved the maximum 70 per cent detection rate, it would still leave 30 per cent undetected.
‘Any bid to exploit this research for homophobic ends is doomed to fail. Homosexuality has existed in all societies and all eras. It is part of the natural spectrum of human sexuality.’