Marriage For Love Is Recent…Check History…European History, That It…Our History of Relationships Is Different
Listen to History of (European) Marriage:
https://wamu.org/story/18/02/12/when-did-marriage-become-so-hard/
This movie, a true story, portrays why whites got married in the 1700’s; the radio program gives an overview as how it came to be what it is currently.
Black people are the oldest people in the world therefore, they have the oldest types of relationships…and not the type white people have…and, it doesn’t include high rates of divorce, jealously, abuse or illegitimate children, less divorce, no jealousy, or abuse.
Our history include:
Polygamy definition is – marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time.
Polyandry – a woman has more than one husband practiced among Tibetans in Nepal, parts of China and part of northern India, in which two or more brothers are married to the same wife, with the wife having equal “sexual access” to them.
Love Festival to meet or find a lover – The Hmong of Vietnam go to a Love Market Festival annually to find lovers or to be with lovers…if the woman gets pregnant no thing…the husband accepts it as his, no anger or jealously
No Word for Sex – in the Dagaaba culture and tradition, there is no word for sex; Malidoma and Sobonfu Some’s marriage was arranged and couples don’t sleep together the night they marry. They say the problems with American relationships is they start at the top of intimacy, with sex then have no where to go with their relationships.
Mother’s Brother Is Father not Biological Father – In European Patriarchal culture, descent is traced through the man or father…if child is not his, the child is illegitimate.
In African Matriarchal culture descent is traced through the woman or mother; mother’s brother or uncle fulfilled the father role..all children, therefore have a father…no concept of illegitimacy and the child belongs to the village….the extended family.
Just image, if African Americans began to live matriarch-ally, none of our children would be illegitimate, i.e., all Black children would have a father, his uncle. The practice would begin to put an end to ‘fatherless’ children. Yes, we’d probably have to return to several generations living together but that would solve a lot of other problems we have because we’re living patriarch-ally.
Female Husbands / Male Daughters – has nothing to do with sex.
In other words, the marriage promotes the social or economic status of the women. The women don’t engage in sex with each other they each have the right to have sex with men of their choice. The purpose of the union is the continuation of the family line. the man who impregnates the woman is chosen from the female ‘husband’s’ clan.
POINT: To know the types of marriage people engage in globally and historically would broaden they type of relationships available to us vs only knowing about one.